Today my boss sent everyone this video in our miscellaneous chat group, titled “5 Things To Give Up If You Want to Be Successful.”
It was really awesome, and watching it made me feel psyched. To me, it seemed like the perfect coincidence considering how I’d been feeling rather down and “bluesy” yesterday up until this morning.
I’ve always considered myself a “dream big” sort of person, though to be honest, I feel that I could use some help making plans and pushing things to the finish line.
This blog has actually been a huge step for me since I’ve always dreamed of having a platform of my own on which to launch a career based on my hobbies, pastimes, and causes dear to my heart. The past few years had been full of excuses, the worst of them being an inability to start anything new on account of having forgotten how to code. I’m glad I finally saw through the gap, let go of my pride, and went down the simple road.
I decided to practice hand lettering using some of the key points in the video, so that I would remember them (hence the featured image). I only wrote down two out of five points, but here’s the full list in case you’re interested:
- Give up the short term mindset
- Give up on playing small
- Give up excuses
- Give up wanting to be liked by everyone
- Give up toxic people. (I’d like to mark this item with a red flag — although I agree with the rationale behind this statement in the video, I believe the word “toxic” needs to be further qualified. What makes a person toxic to begin with? The video said you should surround yourself with “born winners” instead of losers — and yes, I agree that it is good to be around people who build you up rather than drag you down — but is anyone even born a loser in the first place? Perhaps refer to “people who cultivate negative attitudes” and I’ll agree more?)
And if I may add a sixth item that’s relevant to the work I do at the moment: … the ghost!
No, I’m just kidding. No one should actually be working to the point of killing oneself. The moment a job gets so emotionally taxing that even after all sorts of interventions on your end, you’re still exhausted as fuck, or you feel like you have nothing left to yourself… I believe it’s time to run. Run to the mountains, blow off steam, get some relaxation. Or run to your parents’ house for the mean time because you have no job and are too poor to pay the bills (hey, that’s okay). Run to a different interview (but don’t run late!) and under the wing of your next boss. But don’t do that until you’re absolutely sure you’re not the problem — otherwise, you’d just be running away from your responsibilities and/or commitments. Take it from someone who admits to having run away several times (and put it down to my being an ENFP personality type). Pathetic, right?
Sure, it does seem like we’re working “to the death” at my office now that deadlines are looming close, at least in terms of how much our abilities are being challenged. On the upside, we ourselves are a community of learners, exchanging knowledge, wisdom (and the occasional crazy joke), all of us collectively striving to improve our learning curves. At the end of the day, we enjoy the benefit of authentic friendships (even with our superiors), card games, and being on our way home before 7pm instead of working very late hours. Hello, gym (or late-night movie time)! That’s a lot of things to be thankful for, and to me these are the things that really matter.
One bonus I happen to enjoy is Jared’s company throughout the day — the sheer amount of daily hugs is more than enough to get me going! Far beneath my eggshell-like ego that is rife with insecurities from my childhood, the thought of seeing him happy accomplishing his goals and doing something for himself (and for others!) fills me with a feeling of warmth and genuine satisfaction deep within.
How do you get yourself psyched for work and responsibilities? What do you do (or try to avoid doing) to make sure that you meet your goals?